It's the new year! Happy 2016 everyone!
It's another year to celebrate and continue life's journey. I'm sure everyone has a new year's resolution but before we list down what we want to do or change for 2016, let's throw away the things that stop us from accomplishing our goals.
These things may seem normal in our everyday lives but if you look closely, these things actually pull us down and make us look bad.
Here are the top 4 things to ditch, throw away and let go to have a better year ahead of us.
1. Heartaches from lost loved ones, bad choices, mistakes and failures.
Time really is not the influential factor to heal a broken heart, acceptance is. Believe me, I have been there. I have lost my papa and mama. It's been two decades yet everytime I think about them, I still feel lonely and empty. I have accepted their absence but everytime I see families with both parents still living, I always say they're very lucky.
Don't ever say you can't live anymore because your boyfriend left you for someone else or a family member passed away or you got fired from your beloved job. I would understand if it will take years for you to recover or move on but don't ever tell yourself you're giving up.
This 2016, maybe it's time to let go of that bad heartache and start accepting things as they are. When you learn to accept that you are hurt and admit to your self wholeheartedly, you will actually feel better. Let go of the things that make you cry. Besides, they're already gone and it's you who's still denying their absence. Don't you think it's time to let go of the things that were already gone for a while? The great thing about this mysterious universe is when someone leaves you, someone will fill your empty heart again.
Surprisingly, Baby Mico came in when I thought life is too much for me to handle. Someone will ease your pain eventually. Just wait and see. But today, accept your hurt and move on. Life is too good to dwell on how hurt you are. Yes, I've been there too and the loneliness was overwhelming. I'm not telling you I'm an expert on this. I'm just telling you that if you can't get over a broken heart for more than a month, don't worry, it's okay. Time is irrelevant. Give yourself a break and do what you think is good for you in breaking free from a breaking heart.
2. Blaming yourself or blaming others.
When bad things happen, we always have someone to blame, ourselves and other people, even God. We can't really make good New Year's wishes if we keep on blaming someone or something when time gets rough. It's good to breath for at least 10 seconds so can actually compose yourself and think of solutions to problems rather than thinking of who to blame.
Gossip is the number one perrenial problem in our society. The worst characteristic of gossip is that it goes down to family members, close relatives neighbors and friends more than in enemies and colleagues. The bad thing about it is when people gossip about you, they never really gave you cash for your everyday needs. You struggle to survive while they talk about you. None of them actually stopped by and helped, yet you're very affected by their gossip because it hurts a lot. While you can, avoid the gossip and shrug it off.
If you can't handle too much gossip and you get sleepless nights, you may file a complaint to your Barangay and let the officials settle your compromise agreement.
If you feel you're the one doing the gossip, you may not know it but you're actually hurting someone. It's 2016 for heaven's sake! Do something more productive or think of ways you can help that person rather than talking to others about her.
4. Failed promises.
Don't promise yourself if you feel you can't do it. Most New Year's resolutions become failed promises almost all the time. Think of more reachable goals so you will feel more accomplished and more proud when putting a check mark on your New Year's wishes.
There, there. Let go of the bad vibes and let the good times roll! (wink!) So are you ready to make your New Year's resolutions? Go ahead. Start the list with - I will go on a diet :) I know you want it. :)
Happy New Year everyone! Oink! Oink!